TOOLS FOR TRANSFORMATION – GRATITUDE

Dec 04
2013
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Two Perspectives on Gratitude as a Tool for Transformation

Dr. Amit Nagpal, New Delhi, India, and

Dr. Janet Smith Warfield, Florida, USA

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Dr. Amit Nagpal’s Perspective

Amit Nagpal (new)(cropped)Was I always grateful? No, definitely not.

Yet I would say the most important lesson I have learned in my life is gratitude. The more grateful I became, the more blessings the Universe bestowed upon me. It has been a long journey though.

I had more complaints and less gratitude for almost 25 years of my life. I felt I always got less than what I gave. So naturally, I deserved to receive gratitude, not express it. The Chicken Soup for the Soul series initially inspired me to give thank you notes and express gratitude wholeheartedly (around 1998). While the complaining attitude was clouding my mind, gratitude helped me find clarity and fill positive energy in the mind.

The more grateful I became, the more my life began overflowing with beautiful souls. And on thanksgiving this year, I was able to gather strength to even express gratitude to the relationships which have been lessons rather than blessings. The people who had rather rubbed me like sandpaper, also deserved my gratitude, since they had made me grow and evolve. I also realized it’s good to give people a benefit of doubt. In fact practically speaking, giving benefit of doubt to people, gives you also peace of mind.

If you still have doubts, then I would speak the language of science. Gratitude releases the negative energy from the mind. When there is no negative energy (grudges, guilt, suppressed anger and so on), it is easier to meditate and find that peace or desired results. In your own interest forgive and bury the past. Wallace D Wattles rightly says, “The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best; therefore, it tends to become the best.”

In fact these lessons helped me find peace, and meditation helped me find perfect peace. Perfect peace led to regaining my lost creativity and finding clarity, purpose and joy. Beautiful souls walked in, unexpected events started happening, surprises started becoming a norm, and life became wonderfully worth living.

Let me end with a note of gratitude,

“Some inspiration comes from my inspiration (muse),

Some inspiration comes from the divine.

Some inspiration comes from my friends,

There is nothing I can claim to be mine.”

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Dr Amit Nagpal is Chief Inspirational Storyteller at AL Services. He is a Social Media Influencer,  Author, Speaker/Trainer & Coach. To know more, visit www.dramitnagpal.com. (His special interest and expertise lies in inspirational storytelling, anecdotes and visual storytelling)

AL Services offers content development/story writing, consulting, training and other services in the area of brand storytelling. To know more, write to amit@dramitnagpal.com.

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Dr. Janet Smith Warfield’s Perspective

Dr. Janet Smith Warfield

Tears dampen my cheek

washing the pain from my Soul.

Refreshing shower.

 

After 21 years of marriage and three children, my husband abandoned me for another woman.

I had been a wonderful wife. I had washed the family clothes, cleaned the family home, baked homemade bread, cared for our yard and organic garden, joined my husband on his sailing excursions and trips to Maine, watched football games with him, entertained his friends, played bridge with him, sung our children to sleep, read them stories, played games with them. He said we had the perfect marriage.

Yet he abandoned me and our children to rut after another woman.

My whole world turned upside down. What had I done wrong?

I lost my trust in people. I lost my trust in the social systems that had supported my family over centuries. I was hurting, my children were hurting, and there was little I could do to make anything better.

I sobbed alone at night for hours. My heart shattered wide open and split into millions of pieces.

One of our sons went from straight A’s to Straight F’s in a single year, got hooked on drugs, and became involved in physical violence and arrests. I was waking up in the middle of the night with such deep rage that it felt as if my guts were being ripped from my belly. But for emotional and financial support from my parents, I might well have bought a gun and murdered both my husband and his mistress.

How can one be grateful for such a life-shattering experience?

I learned I was a survivor and spiritual warrior. Being used by this man as a convenient housekeeper, babysitter, and sex object was not the life I was intended to live.

At age 20, becoming a lawyer had never been part of my vision. At age 40, I needed to go to law school to learn how to use words and the patriarchal system to protect myself against words and the patriarchal system. I graduated cum laude and practiced law for 22 years. On more than one occasion, bullies, incompetents, and dysfunctional politicians disintegrated and disappeared as I presented relevant facts and arguments to support a dynamic, all-inclusive, co-creative community.

I learned how to think for myself and take care of myself. I became a free woman. I am beholden to no one other than the Source I have chosen to believe in, myself, and those humans who are accountable and conscious enough to deserve my gifts and my love.

I’ve experienced many dark nights of the Soul, but I’ve learned to dance with words and dance with wisdom. I’ve even learned to dance with functional, respectful, appreciative men.

Here’s a short video on gratitude you may find useful:

Gratitude

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Dr. Janet Smith Warfield serves wisdom-seekers who want understanding and clarity so they can live peaceful, powerful, prosperous lives. Through her unique combination of holistic, creative, right-brain transformational experiences and 22 years of rigorous, left-brain law practice, she has learned how to sculpt words in atypical ways to shift her listeners into experiences beyond words, transforming turmoil into inner peace. To learn more, go to www.wordsculptures.com,  www.janetsmithwarfield.com, and www.wordsculpturespublishing.com.

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TOOLS FOR TRANSFORMATION – VISION BOARDS

Mar 06
2013
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Two Perspectives on Vision Boards as a Tool for Transformation

Dr. Amit Nagpal, New Delhi, India, and

Dr. Janet Smith Warfield, Florida, USA

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Dr. Amit Nagpal’s Perspective

My philosophy “Enlarge, Excel and Evolve” sums up my vision and hence represents my vision board too. In the narrow sense, the philosophy is “Enlarge as a human being, Excel as a social media being and Evolve as a personal brand” but in the broad sense of the phrase, “Enlarge, Excel and Evolve” signifies enlarging (continuous personal growth), excelling at whatever you do and evolving as a human being all the time.

Our vision should not be restricted to just ambitions & family but it should represent our desire to give back to society and to embrace the Universe with gratitude. For the same reason, in the image the man is standing with open arms to embrace the Universe with faith and open mindedness. The colour scheme of the picture also portrays the beauty of life while the yellow and the brightness highlight optimism towards life.

I have been a seeker of personal growth since childhood and I believe that we have so much to work upon in our own personalities, that we hardly have a right to blame others and find fault. The only exception is professional situations where it is our duty to audit and monitor others. I remember in my last job, when the audit team used to come to my department, I used to address them as a team on “Fault Finding Mission” (of course at their back in this case).

I like to do frontbiting in general (and I sure have a reputation for that), but backbiting is the only option sometimes. If you can find some imperfection in my vision board, I shall be glad. I do not strive for perfection, I strive for excellence. I do not try to be divine; I just try to be better and better human being.

If you have a vision for your life, you need a vision board. But if you are not sure, where you want to go, any road will take you there.

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Dr Amit Nagpal is a Personal Branding Consultant & Deepest Passion Coach. He is based in New Delhi, India and specializes in personal branding with a holistic touch. His philosophy is, “Enlarge as a Human Being, Excel as a Social Media Being and Evolve as a Personal Brand.”
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Dr. Janet Smith Warfield’s Perspective

Dr. Janet Smith Warfield

What is a vision board?

 A vision board is a unique collage of words and pictures that bring you joy, purpose, and meaning. It is your vision of what your life would be like if it were exactly the way you wanted. Here is what my own favorite vision board looks like:
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Why do you need a vision board?

To refocus your attention and intention on all the good things you want to bring into your life. Your right attention and “right intention,” as the Buddhists say, helps manifest these good things in your life.

How do you make a vision board?

Give yourself a couple of hours. Get yourself a big piece of poster board, a pile of old magazines, a pair of scissors, and some glue. Look through the magazines and cut out anything you like: food, words, beautiful homes, scenery, exotic places. Add photos of family. When your pile of cutouts is large enough, arrange them any way you want on the poster board. When you have a design you like, paste the words and pictures down. If you like, you can have the vision board laminated for durability.

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How do you use a vision board?

Once your vision board is finished, hang it on a wall where you see it every day. Look at it to remind yourself what your interests are and what you want to bring into your life. Here are the five other vision boards I’ve made. I keep them right over my desk where I can always see them.
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Look for new patterns and insights. Invite your friends to look at your vision board and tell you what they see. Then just sit back and watch as the words and pictures on your vision board start showing up in your life.

How does this happen? I haven’t the foggiest idea. I just know that it does.

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Janet Smith Warfield serves wisdom-seekers who want understanding and clarity so they can live peaceful, powerful, prosperous lives. Through her unique combination of holistic, creative, right-brain transformational experiences and 22 years of rigorous, left-brain law practice, she has learned how to sculpt words in atypical ways to shift her listeners into experiences beyond words, transforming turmoil into inner peace. For more information, see wordsculptures.com, janetsmithwarfield.com, and wordsculpturespublishing.com.

 

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